published by Hollywoodlife.com - where I was interviewed about being friendly with your ex
Are YOU friends with any of your exes? Or do you just pretend to be – and get insanely jealous with you see him with his new girlfriend?
We’ve got to hand it to Terri Seymour, the girl is one cool cucumber. Exhibit A – witness her laid-back behavior around ex-boyfriend Simon Cowell , 50 (who she has to INTERVIEW for her show, Extra, by the way – such an indignity!), but the way she actually hugs his new girlfriend, make-up artist Mezghan Hussainy, 36? Astounding!
But how does Terri really, 36, really feel about her ex and Simon’s new woman? We’d be seething inside and internally visualizing pulling Mezghan’s hair! This leads us to wonder: can you ever really be best buds with your ex-love?
Lynn Harris, co-creator of Breakupgirl.net, says yes! “Sometimes you were friends all along, and that probalby was the way it was supposed to be,” she tells HollywoodLife.com. “Sometimes the relationship was based on passion, without the aspects of friendship.”
But is it a good idea to be besties with an ex-lover? We’re skeptical. “It’s nice and makes life easier,” admits Lynn. “If you run into them, you should say ‘hi’, but it’s not a judgement of your skills in a relationship if you’re not. However, if you did have a fondness for your ex and it was an OK breakup, then I can’t imagine not being civil to them.”
Rhonda Findling, psychotherapist and author of Don’t Call That Man! disagrees for normal folk – but says that celebrities often play by a different set of rules. “I don’t want to talk to anyone that ends it with me, and I certainly don’t want to meet their new girlfriend, but in Hollywood things are different. There’s no hard and fast rule here,” Rhonda tells us. “As for Terri, it’s possible that she’s faking it for the public, and she’s just trying to show that she doesn’t care. I would suggest she not talk to her ex, because it can open up a lot of feelings and wounds.”
Who needs that? What about you ladies? Are you friends with your exes, and if so, how in the heck did you manage to pull it off? Tell us your stories here!
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Sorry everyone, but my view is that remaining friends (especially the first year after a break up) is just a excuse to stay attached. Most certainly, it does not help with respect to moving on and emotionally extricating onself from a the past relationship. My friends and I have found that, after a break up, if you stay away for at least six months, odds are you have no interest in having any sort of "friendship" with the person who broke your heart. As well, why would one be interested in a "downgraded" version of the relationship!!!
I agree with Rhonda, they just don't deserve your friendship!
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